Couples Counseling

Going home feels tense.

Sometimes it’s easy, you can laugh together, cook dinner, get through an evening without incident.

But you know it’s only a matter of time before it comes back up. You’ll say something, or they’ll say something, and it’s like you’re off to the races all over again.

You can predict the whole course of things right as it begins. You end up making the same arguments, begging to be understood, and at the end of the fight feeling like they just aren’t getting it.

They aren’t understanding you.

Coming back to the same things over and over again. It’s like you have fighting catch-phrases – a carousel that gets faster and faster, nastier and nastier, with no end in sight.

The only thing you know how to do is walk away.

Which helps in the short term, but as time goes on the resentment and anger just seem to build.

You’re beginning to doubt if this relationship is ever going to work.

Surely if it were meant to be, it wouldn’t be this hard.

Despite the pain, the thought of ending the relationship is extremely upsetting. You love this person. You were ready to make a go of trying this for the long-haul. Yet it’s gotten so hard it’s beginning to feel like a slow spiral into misery and pain.

But you still want to be with them.

If only you could get through this block… if only you could find a better way to understand one another.

That’s where I come in.

When I work with couples, I focus on helping you recognize where you are getting stuck and learn how to navigate through that stuck-ness differently.

I can teach you to fight well.

Disagreements in intimate relationships happen. If the goal is to never be in conflict, then you are probably best staying out of romantic relationships altogether. Rather than aspire to a conflict-free relationship, which will never happen, I want you to know you can handle conflict head on.

To have confidence that whatever shows up, you can get through it together.

Arguments should be a source of intimacy. Getting through an argument should leave you feeling energized and closer to your partner than ever before.

Conflict can be a source of understanding, connection, and deep intimacy.

If instead you find it slowly growing into a wedge between you, then something isn’t working. You aren’t getting to the other side.

Let me help you…

Let me help you learn how to understand one another better, while also learning how to support each other in the fight.

Let me help you get back on the same team.

You deserve to have each other’s backs; not feel torn apart by the chaos in front of you.

You deserve a relationship of intimacy and trust. Call me now at (720) 633-4311 for a free consultation, and we can get you and your partner back on track.